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Abasore gusa: Nutereta umukobwa akakubwira aya magambo uzamenye ko yakubenze mu kinyabupfura

Bibaho cyane ko umukobwa yakubenga ariko agatinya kubikubwira ahubwo akabinyuza muyandi magambo akubwira buri munsi.

Burya mu rukundo si ngombwa guhendahenda kuko rugenda rwizana buhorobuhoro bityo umukobwa nubona arimo kukunaniza akoresheje imvugo zimwe tugiye kukubwira uzamureke umenye ko atagukunda ahubwo ko yakubenze.

Aya niyo magambo abakoresha bagamije kubenga abasore mu ibanga:

Ndacyari umwana. N’ubwo tumenyereye ko abasore bashakana n’abakobwa baruta, mu gihe umukobwa wifuzaho umukunzi akubwiye ko akiri muto burya aba yumva umuruta cyane kuburyo nta rukundo rukwiye kuba hagati yanyu ahubwo we aba agufata nk’umugabo umubyaye.

Ndatekereza ko uri nka musaza wanjye. Mu gihe umukobwa wifuzaho kuba umukunzi akubwiye gutyo, jya wumva ko yashatse kukumvisha ko atakwishimiye kuburyo wamubera umukunzi. Kukwemerera ko uba nka musaza we ni uburyo bwo kukumvisha ko ibyo gukundana nawe biri kure nk’ukwezi kuko nyine utakundana na mushiki wawe.

Nta gahunda ndafata. Mu gihe usabye umukobwa ko mwakundana akakubwira ko atarafata gahunda yo gukundana burya aba yifitiye abasore benshi akunda kandi batarabivuganaho byeruye ngo afate umwanzuro. Ibi rero bituma yirinda kwica ku wundi kuko aba yumva yazakubwira yego mu gihe azaba yabonye ko ahandi byanze. Mbese ubwo aba asa n’ukwibikiye kuburyo azakwemerera mu gihe ahandi ateganya byanze.

Singukunda muri ubwo buryo. Ibi bikunze kuba mugihe wenda umukobwa mwigana cyangwa se mukorana bityo we akagukunda bisanzwe nka mugenzi we. Niba akubwiye gutyo rero ntugashidikanye cyangwa ngo uyoberwe icyo ashatse kuvuga. Burya we aba abona mudakwiranye kuburyo wamubera umukunzi cyangwa se nyine we akaba yumva nta rukundo agufitiye(atakwiyumvamo).

Mfite indi nshuti y’umuhungu. Ibi byo nta kubitindaho rwose mu gihe umukobwa afite umukunzi yiyumvamo kandi babanye neza, iyo atagira ingeso mbi yo gutendeka akubwira nyine ko inkweto yabonye iyayo.

Sinjya nganira n’abahungu aho nkorera/niga. Nuhura n’uruva gusenya umukobwa akakubwira gutyo nyamuneka jya umugendera kure. Iyo akubwiye gutyo burya aba ashaka kuvuga ko uretse no kuba yagukunda atanashimishwa no kuba hamwe nawe cyangwa kuganira nawe.

Mpugiye ku kazi kanjye/amashuri yanjye. Nk’uko bisanzwe n’ubundi ntihakundana imburamikoro. Mu gihe umukobwa umusabye kukubera umukunzi rero akakubwira gutyo jya wumva neza ko atakubona nk’umusore yaha umwanya cyangwa ngo aguteho igihe cye. Mbese mu kinyabupfura cye aba ashaka kukumvisha ko utamunyuze kuburyo mpapanga iby’urukundo.

Ntituri ku rwego rumwe urandenze. Nusaba umukobwa kukubera umukunzi akakubwira ko umurenze jya uhita wumva ko we abona akurenze. Ikiyongera kuri ibi kandi burya aba ashaka kukumvisha ko ushobora kuba wirata/wishyira hejuru kandi atari rwo rwego uriho.

Tube inshuti zisanzwe. Mu gihe umukobwa akwereka ko agufitiye amarangamutima ariko akagusaba ko mwakwibera inshuti zisanzwe, burya aba agukunda ariko afite undi umwe cyangwa benshi; cyane ko bene uwo aba akunda gutendeka. Birashoboka ariko na none ko abikubwira mu rwego rwo kukumvisha ko urukundo yifuza kugukunda ari urusanzwe rwa kivandimwe, ko akubonamo umusore mwiza ariko na none udakwiye kugera ku rugero rwo kumubera umukunzi.

Ntabwo nzashaka. Nk’uko bisanzwe bizwi, abakobwa hafi ya bose ; bifuza gushaka cyane ko ugumiwe usanga yarabaye iciro ry’imigani. Bityo rero umukobwa nakubwira ko atazashaka jya wumva ko akubona nk’inteshamutwe kandi mudakwiye kubana. Ibi na none bijya bigaragara ku bakobwa bikundira amaraha maze akifuza kwikundanira na buri wese ubishaka ngo akunde agire icyo amukuraho. Binabaho rimwe na rimwe ko umukobwa usanga aryamana n’umusore ariko akamubwira ko atazashaka. Ibi bivuga ko wowe utari umusore abonamo ko wamubera umugabo ubishoboye

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